There are some things you may want to know when VRChat is concerned.

I have pros and cons when it comes to VRChat. It is probable to see me nice and friendly towards people, but this only matters few people in the same instance as me. If there are a lot more people, the most will presumably not allow me to say at least one word and won't care about me. I usually avoid these instances. I also prevent myself from joining public instances, since those are occupied by majority of people not being my friends, and while not knowing these people personally, they will probably act weirdly towards me, and finally, not all of them are as friendly as me.

I wouldn't mind my friends inviting their friends to my instances, however, I do want it to be as peaceful as it can be. It is much better to warn me when this ever takes place though. Yet, spending time with friends on VRChat is a shield against monophobia (fear of loneliness) for me.

I sometimes feel jealous whether I see my friends playing with headsets, while I don't have one (although I plan Meta Quest 3). If you want to add me on VRChat, I will give you my username: Aveyzan. I avoid adding strangers to my friends list, I want to know these people first.

The main grape is my hatred to NSFW content, despite I am legally allowed to see this kind of content. Lots of people enjoy talking in almost extremely erotic way, including their friends, but this is beyond my boundary. Another thing I want to mention are broken hangout schedules. Usually, I have no concrete times when I hang out with my friends, although I suggest the hangouts more frequently than they. This randomness is not always good for me, because while I am actually desperate to hang out with friends on VRChat and I realize hangouts don't occur, this simply tells me that these friends may not like me, but this thought is improbable, since I mostly feel people have stuff to do. That means I can't blame them.

As an example, I used to unfriend Axyeron 2 times due to depression episodes I had. Today he remains my friend, but I barely have the chance to see him ever again, anywhere.

For friends worthy of my trust, they can have their own page on my website under the address https://aveyzan.xyz/f/<name>, get promoted as my favorite friends on both Discord and VRChat and even have some dedicated Blender renders once I get their VRChat avatars' .blend file. More devotion may include officially promoting them in AveyLands Discord server, but this may rarely happen, as people barely message me or spend time together. Especially the first prize may be tempting, it is still bound with sacrificing time. For the sake of keeping standard lifestyle thanks to the timezones, even texting me when I am offline is good enough, I usually respond fast once I am on my computer.

Just like on Discord, there are 4 statuses that can be used, with 2 of them under angle of names being the same, and the other 2 being different.

Join Me - I am in perfect state, and willing to share my instance to others. Often connected with instances of types Friends+ and Friends.

Online - my used status by default. I am in a good state, however, bashful to meet others. Used in practically all types of instances, except Public and Group Public (again, I avoid these).

Ask Me - the second default status used by me. Used to define restricted meet-ups with one or several people. Mainly used in instances of types: Invite, Friends, Friends+. Ask Me status is also used after episode of depression, what also means I am gently explaining situation, what had place and caused me to feel really bad. Custom status is frequent in my profile. Also used when being AFK.

Do Not Disturb - I am in dreadful state, depressed, very sad and without love. I am mentally collapsed, and need to calm down. Custom status is often used.

And now, to not make me uncomfy, consider abiding the following guidelines:

1. No NSFW activities and content.
2. No bullying and harassing at any point.
3. Respect my personality, hobbies, etc.
4. Be gentle. Swearing is allowed but it is advised to restrict it.
5. No unnecessary conflicts.
6. Make hangout schedule so it won't need to be further postponed.
7. When hanging out in a world, ensure the instance is NOT public (Invite, Invite+, Friends, Friends+, Group Members Only exclusively). Groups that host instances cannot be big and active much.

That's it!

Article last edited on 20th April 2026